Ngokwesibonelo, imibhangqwana evamile icabanga ukuthi omunye nomunye ukhuluphele, okungase kube yindlela nje yokudlala ngothando; kodwa uma umuntu eqala ukucabanga ukuthi a Unodoli wezocansi weTpe isindayo, ngakho-ke akusenakwenzeka ngempela phakathi kwabo. URobert Steinberg, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kwezenhlalo eYunivesithi yaseYale e-United States, uphakamise ukuthi kunezici ezintathu eziyisisekelo zothando: ukusondelana, inkanuko, nokuzinikela, kanye nenhlanganisela yezindlela ezihlukahlukene zothando.
Kodwa phakathi kobuhle, lezi zakhi ezintathu ziba ukusondelana kobuchopho, inkanuko ye-oneway, isithembiso okulula ukusinikeza nokuyibuyisela, futhi kuzoba nezindaba eziningi ezidabukisayo zokuhlangana kweTaobao nokuhlukana kwe-Xianyu kulo mhlaba womuntu. Azikho izindaba ezimayelana nothando lobuhle eminyakeni edlule. "Umuntu ushada unodoli" futhi "onodoli benkambiso ngokusho kokubukeka komkakhe oshonile" sekuyisikhathi eside kungenjalo, futhi ngisho nokuba khona kwezinganekwane zasemadolobheni njengokuthi "ubaba nendodana ekhulisa onodoli abayisikhombisa" akumangazi manje.
Onodoli abanamandla bamelela amaphupho amadoda okuphambene Unodoli Wothando. Ziphelele emzimbeni nasesikhumbeni. Bangaba emseni wakho lapho ubadinga. Uma ungazidingi, zingalala zinganyakazi futhi ngeke zikushiye. Uma uya, ngeke ucasuke nje. Wonke umuntu ufuna umlingani onjalo ophelele. Yiqiniso, wonke umuntu wesifazane ufuna futhi umlingani onobulili obuhlukile ophelele kuzo zonke izici ukuze alethe injabulo, hhayi izinkinga.
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Ngaphambi kokuzalwa kukanodoli ophefumulayo, ukuze afeze lesi sifiso, ama-necrophiles agcina isidumbu njengonodoli wabo. Mhlawumbe lokhu kungabhekwa njengonodoli wokuqala, kodwa abakwazi ukugcinwa isikhathi eside, futhi eminye yemisebenzi ayikwazi ukwaneliswa. Yiqiniso, uma unomcabango omningi, indwangu onodoli bezocansi abashibhile eyenziwe ngendwangu noma isikhumba ingasetshenziswa futhi njengonodoli abaphefumulayo.
Uma sifuna ukuthandwa, kufanele sithande onodoli bocansi, silawule ubudlelwano, futhi sifunde ukuzwana nabobulili obuhlukile. Empeleni yilokhu okufanele sibhekane nakho futhi sizibuze kukho konke ukuphila kwethu. Lapho i-heroine izwa ukuthi inomdlavuza wesibeletho, iqala ukubhekana nokuhlola izifiso zayo zomzimba. Kunesiqeshana sefilimu lapho eveza khona uthando endodeni esemtatsheni wezincwadi: Ngifuna ukulala nawe.
Indaba imayelana nezithandani ezimbili ezibonisa uthando lwakhe buthule, futhi unodoli omuhle wocansi ivuleleke kakhulu ngakho. Wayeveza uthando lwakhe ngezinkondlo, azisho ngokuzwakalayo futhi encoma ubuhle bukaLaila esidlangalaleni. Ukuzifela ngonodoli bocansi sekwenze waduma ngokubizwa. Libhekisela kumuntu onedlozi, noma umane nje, uhlanya. Abazali bakaLaila babengasithandi isithunzi sakhe, becabanga ukuthi inkampani yakhe izophazamisa isithunzi sikaLaila kanye nombono womphakathi ngaye, babahlukanisa.
