Ipulasitiki yendabuko nejwayelekile I-WM Doll izithombe zesikhathi esidlule seziphelelwe yisikhathi, futhi ukubukeka kwazo kukude nokwabantu. Njengamanje, onodoli bocansi banombala oqinile wamaqiniso. Kubantu abaningi, iyimisebenzi yobuciko yangempela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuthuthukiswa konodoli bocansi kuyinqubo ende kakhulu futhi ephelele. Konke kufanele kulingane kahle, kusukela kusayizi kuya ekumisekeni, kuya ezicini ezenza unodoli ngamunye abe yinto eyingqayizivele.
Kodwa-ke, uma uwazi kahle umthetho, kungcono ukufunda ngokuduma konodoli abafana nempilo. Ekhulwini lama-21, sijabulela ukusetshenziswa okulungile nokukhululekile kwenketho engcono kakhulu yonodoli bothando ukwanelisa izifiso zakho zocansi. Ngaphambilini, le mithombo yokuzijabulisa yabantu abadala yayibhekwa njengengafanele ngenxa yenhlamba ehlobene namasiko. Siza ukuqinisa amasosha omzimba. Ucwaningo lwezokwelapha lubonisa ukuthi ukuhambisa unodoli wothando osindayo noma ukukhuluma nodoli wothando kungathuthukisa ukwakheka kwe-antibody immunoglobulin A (IgA), enomthelela omkhulu ekuthuthukiseni amasosha omzimba womuntu.
Njengamafoni ahlakaniphile anamuhla, nakuba amafoni ahlakaniphile alethe ukuphila okulula, ulwazi lwakho lubonakala sengathi luceliwe futhi lwaqashwa yizwe langaphandle futhi luntekenteke kakhulu. Yilokhu okumele sikunake. Ubuhlakani bokwenziwa buzokwenzeka kusiphi isigaba? Ngemva kokuba nokwami ukwazi, ngingakwazi ukukulawula? Lezi zidinga ukucatshangelwa kusengaphambili. Ngothando lweqiniso unodoli ocansini we-Japan, uzothandana ngempela futhi uphulukise isizungu sakho.
Khipha unodoli ebhokisini ngosizo lwengubo ukuze ugweme ukulimaza kule nqubo. Kwabanye abantu, lokhu kuyisinqumo esiphelele sokubuka owesifazane/owesilisa ebukeka ehlutshiwe, kanti kwabanye, enza ucansi nento efana nabantu. Akungabazeki ukuthi onodoli bobulili bangakwazi ngempela ukufeza injongo ethile. Noma iyiphi indlela, ingakusiza ukuba udlule isizungu ngaphandle kwefasitela futhi uphile impilo ejabulisayo.
Ingabe onodoli bocansi badinga ubungane kanye nobudlelwano bezithandani? Onodoli bocansi bathatha indawo kanye nokwaneliseka empilweni yangempela. Eqinisweni, ifana kakhulu ne-psychology yothando, kodwa ithambekele kakhulu ekuphatheni nasekulawuleni umuntu. Angase ahlangabezane nezithiyo empilweni yangempela, kunzima ukusungula ubuhlobo bangempela obungcono, noma ezinye zezidingo zakhe ezingokwengqondo azikwazi ukufezwa ngokoqobo, ngakho wanelisa le ngxenye yephupho emhlabeni ongokoqobo. Nge-Aiwa, ngokungangabazeki uzovikeleka ezifweni ezithathelwana ngocansi noma ezifweni zocansi.
Nakuba ziningi izindlela zokubhekana nezifo ezithathelwana ngocansi, uma uthola indlela eyodwa, okuhlanganisa imithi kanye namakhondomu e-latex okuvimbela, uma unentombi yakho, ngeke ukwazi ukuqeda ngokuphelele amathuba okutheleleka. Thanda i onodoli bezocansi abashibhile isiza ukugcina ingozi ingangeni. Kuyinto enhle futhi ihlala ingenasici kuze kube usuku oluthola ngayo. Lokhu akukubeki engcupheni yokugula.
Nokho, lokhu kuzwakala kuyahlanya, futhi ukwengeza unodoli wocansi ebudlelwaneni bakho kungenza izinto zibe mnandi kakhulu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi unodoli wocansi wesilisa noma wesifazane, ungazenza umuntu wesithathu nohamba nabo, wenze sengathi unamaphupho ocansi ahlukahlukene, futhi uthole izinto ezintsha.
