Kodwa uyazi ukuthi ngempela awunaye unodoli wocansi owakho

I-unidirectional depression, eyaziwa nangokuthi i-depression noma i-clinical depression, yisifo esenzeka lapho umuntu ezwa ukudabuka, intukuthelo, ukudangala, ukulahlekelwa, kanye/noma umuzwa wecala onodoli bezocansi abashibhile ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Lezi zimpawu zingahlala amasonto noma ngisho izinyanga. Lokhu ukucindezeleka okuvusa inkanuko. Uma kunesiqephu esisodwa noma eziningi zokuhlanya phakathi nesiqephu sokucindezeleka, asikwazi ukufakwa kusigaba sokucindezeleka kwendlela eyodwa.

Kunezigaba ezimbili zokucindezeleka okuguquguqukayo: isigaba sokucindezeleka kanye nesigaba sokuhlanya. Ngesikhathi sokucindezeleka, izimpawu zifana kakhulu ne-unidirectional depression. Phakathi nesigaba sokuhlanya, umzimba uba nenjabulo, ukucabanga okumatasa, izimfuneko zokulala ezincishisiwe, ukuyaluza, ukujabula, ukuziphatha okungalindelekile, kanye namazinga wamandla anda. Lezi zigaba ezimbili ziyashintshana, futhi abantu abahlukene bashintsha ngesivinini esihlukile. I-bipolar disorder yisifo esiyingozi esitholakala kalula. Iziguli eziningi zocansi zidinga ukuphuza imithi impilo yonke.

Njengamanye amadoda, isimo sakhe naso sibangelwa izinkinga phakathi nokukhula kwakhe. “Nginokukhathazeka okukhulu empilweni yami, kunzima kubantu besifazane bangempela,” usho kanje. "Ngike ngahlukana ngahlala noMaria isikhathi esingangenyanga. Kumnandi. Kufana nomuntu ophakathi nendawo, kodwa uyazi ukuthi awunaye. Unodoli wezocansi weTpe okwakho." Imodeli kanokusho "enohlangothi lwasendle" kanye "nobuhle bangasese besiqhingi" obungamakhilogremu angu-65 kwembula ukuthi wayeyinhlonipho kunkosikazi wakhe wangaphambili.

Ubudlelwano bakhe nalaba ababili unodoli omuhle wocansi kusukela ekuhlukumezeni okuhle. “Ngingumfana oyisidudla oseduze bengihlekiswa ngaye,” echaza. "Angizange ngibathukuthelele abantu, kodwa ngaba namahloni. Ngaqala ukwakha izwe labangane engingazicabangela ukuthi bangiphelezele. Ngicabanga ukuthi yingakho ngizifela ngokuzalanisa abantu." "Yiliphi ilungelo engingakusho? Kunjalo? Emsebenzini wami, ngizohlangabezana nezidingo zeziguli," kuchaza udokotela. "Ngiyavumelana nabo kungakhathaliseki ukuthi baphazanyiswa noma bakhathazwa imikhuba yabo. Ukuqondiswa umbono wami siqu akusho ukuthi kuwufanele umsebenzi wami."

Ngingabathengaphi onodoli bocansi osaziwayo nezihlabani zocansi? Uma ufuna ukuthenga onodoli bobulili bosaziwayo, ungakhetha kukho okuningana. Okokuqala, kukhona onodoli bocansi bosaziwayo abenziwe ngaphambilini. Laba nodoli baklanywe abakhiqizi bonodoli futhi babukeka ngokuqondile noma ngokungaqondile njengosaziwayo noma izinkanyezi ze-porn. Uma ungathola lowo owufunayo, le nketho inhle ngoba onodoli abenziwe ngaphambilini bashibhe kakhulu kunenketho yesibili (onodoli bangokwezifiso).

Omunye osaziwayo abadala bokuqala/izinkanyezi zocansi ukwamukela imboni yonodoli bocansi. Une-a Unodoli Wothando eyenziwe ngokomfanekiso wakhe, othandwa kakhulu abalandeli namakhasimende. Waziwa ngomzimba wakhe onethoni kanye nesinqe esiyindilinga esifanele, konke okuzodonsa amehlo ngokushesha lapho ubona unodoli wakhe wocansi. Kubalandeli, leli yithuba elihle lokuchitha isikhathi namantombazane efantasy, kanye nezinkanyezi ze-porn, impumelelo yale doli kufanele ikwenze uqaphele umqondo wokuba nodoli wezocansi wendalo yakho.