Abantu abaningi baye baqaphela ukuthi bayasebenza njengonodoli bocansi

Ucansi aluseyona into engathandeki noma isihloko esingathandeki emphakathini - futhi ngandlela thile, leso isizathu sokukhuphuka konodoli bocansi, noma okungenani hhayi ngokumelene nakho. Kodwa ngaphandle kweqiniso lokuthi ubulili abuyona i-taboo, yisiphi isizathu sokwanda okungakaze kubonwe ngaphambili Idoli locansi lowesilisa ukutholwa?

Kunjalo-ke. Ngamashejuli amatasatasa, amadoda awanaso ngempela isikhathi nesineke sobuhlobo obuvuthiwe. Kodwa-ke, amadoda kufanele anelise izifiso nezidingo zawo zangaphakathi - azikho izindlela ezimbili. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, abesifazane baye baphakamisa izinga kangangokuthi, ngokusho kocwaningo oluthile, cishe u-20% wamadoda minyaka yonke akalali nhlobo! Uma ungazange ulwenzile ucansi ngonyaka odlule, maningi amathuba okuthi nakulo nyaka ungaluhlanganisi ucansi. Ngakho-ke ekupheleni kosuku, cishe amaphesenti angu-20 amadoda awalali nhlobo, futhi cishe amaphesenti angu-80 aya ocansini ngezikhathi ezithile kuphela futhi awanakho lokho akufunayo.

Inkinga eyodwa ngemfundo yocansi enhle ukubandakanywa. Izingxoxo zazigxile ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwabesilisa nabesifazane umphakathi osudlule kukho. Namuhla, amalungu omphakathi we-LGBTQ+ amukeleka kakhulu emphakathini kunakudala. Nakuba kusekhona ukuphikiswa okuthile, abantu abaningi baye baqaphela ukuthi basebenza ngendlela efanayo Unodoli wezocansi. Yebo, lokhu kusho nokuthi impilo yabo yezocansi ibalulekile.

Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, abasekeli bemiphakathi engakhethi kanambambili basebenzisa imali yabo ezinsizeni ezikholelwa namalungelo e-LGBT, iningi lawo okuyizinkampani eziqhutshwa umphakathi. Lezi zinkampani ezibandakanya wonke umuntu zimele amanani athuthukayo. Njengoba bethembele emphakathini ukuthi ubashayele intuthuko nokukhula, isenti ngalinye abaliholayo liyabaluleka. Manje ukuthi ukubaluleka Unodoli wezocansi waseJapans isisunguliwe, abathengi manje banokulindela okuphezulu kubakhiqizi. Esikhathini esedlule, ukuthengisa nokuthenga imikhiqizo yezobuchwepheshe bocansi kwakubhekwa njengomsebenzi womshoshaphansi.

Manje njengoba unombono wokubukeka okuvamile kukadoli wakho wocansi oyintandokazi, ungaqala ukucabanga ngazo zonke ezinye izici zokuthenga unodoli. Uzodinga ukuthola ukuthi uzombeka kuphi unodoli wakho, uzomnakekela futhi uhlanze kanjani unodoli wakho wocansi, nazo zonke izici ezidingekayo zokunakekelwa kwangemva kwesikhashana.

Kungani kubalulekile ukwenza lokhu manje? Lula: okokuthula kwakho kwengqondo. Uma wenelisekile ukuthi ungahlanganisa a Unodoli wezocansi weTpe empilweni yakho, uqinisekisiwe inqubo yokuthenga engcono kakhulu. Uma usuwenzile futhi wacwaninga wonke umsebenzi wasemuva, ungadlulela ekuthengeni kwangempela ngaphandle kokuma kungazelelwe ukuze uthole isixazululo senkinga eyisicefe yokuhlela. Ungakwazi ukugxila kulokho okufunayo.