Ucansi ngokwalo kufanele lulethe abantu umuzwa wenjabulo, kodwa lukhathazwa umsebenzi womuntu siqu, ukuphila, nobudlelwano phakathi kwabantu. Sebephenduke izigqila zocansi, hhayi amakhosi ocansi. Yiqiniso, abagcini nje ngokugxila enqubweni yocansi, bajabule "ngezinhlelo" kanye "nemicabango", kodwa futhi bahlushwa "amahloni" kanye "necala". Yini ebangela onodoli bezocansi abashibhile ukulutheka? Ngokuvamile kukholakala ukuthi ukuba umlutha wocansi kuwukuziphatha okuvamile ngokweqile okubangelwa izici zomzimba, zengqondo, zomndeni kanye nezenhlalo. Izici ze-physiological ngokuvamile zibangelwa izifo ze-endocrine noma izidakamizwa. Kodwa-ke, abanye abacwaningi bakholelwa ukuthi izici zomzimba zokuluthwa ucansi zingaphezu kwesigaba sangempela "sokulawula inkanuko yobulili".
Ucwaningo lweNyuvesi yaseCambridge empeleni luthole ukuthi abantu abenza ucansi oluyimpoqo banezifunda zobuchopho ezifanayo nabantu abake batholakala benezidakamizwa-kokubili okuhlobene nemivuzo kanye nogqozi. Ngakho-ke, ukuvumelana emhlabeni wezemfundo ukuthi ukuluthwa ucansi "umuntu ongavikelekile, ofuna ukukhuthazwa futhi aqinisekise ukubaluleka kwakhe." Ngokuvamile, imilutha yocansi ayigcini nje umlutha wocansi, kodwa futhi nokuxhumana nemizwelo. Ngakho kukhona amakilabhu okulutha ubulili e-United States. Imilutha yocansi isemathubeni amaningi okwanelisa izidingo zabo ezingokomzwelo ngocansi. Ngokwemininingwane enikezwe iqembu, abanye abantu abanawo umngcele ocacile phakathi kocansi nobudlelwano, baziphoqe ukuthi bawele ebuhlotsheni bomzwelo noma bocansi, okuholela ekukhathazekeni kwabo ngokwengqondo. Abanye abantu bazokhathazeka kakhulu ngoba abakwazi ukufinyelela i-orgasm ngenxa yocansi ngokweqile noma ezinye izizathu.
Ubuhle kanye ne-sexy yabesifazane abubonakali nje ebusweni babo, kodwa nasemzimbeni wabo ophansi. Imilenze namathanga owesifazane amelela izinga eliphezulu lokuvusa inkanuko, okukhuthaza izithixo eziningi. I Idoli locansi lowesilisa iyimodeli ye-torso sex doll eklanywe ngezici zemilenze namathanga. Inhloso yabo ukwanelisa wonke amaphupho akho ocansi okungenzeka ukuthi uhlotshaniswe nemilenze namathanga e-sexy. Njengamanje, imilenze yedoli yocansi iphefumulelwe imiklamo yabo engokoqobo. Uzothola ukuthi imiklamo eminingi inesikhumba esithambile nesi-sexy nabo bonke ukushelela ongase ufune ukukuzwa. Imbobo, indunu, nesitho sangasese sowesifazane kuxege kakhulu ngenxa yokwakheka kwazo okufana nempilo. Uma sibheka ohlwini lobukhona babo, kunezinhlobo eziningi, futhi ukunambitheka kwakho kuhlale kubalulekile.
Phakathi kwabaningi Unodoli wezocansi weTpe ukukhetha ongase ube nakho, imilenze yonodoli bocansi ingenye ongase ube nesithakazelo kuyo. Nokho, abathengi abanelisekile ngalokhu kukhetha banezizathu ezihlukene zokufaka isandla kulezi zinzuzo. Nazi izici ezimbili ezibalulekile, futhi zingase zikuphoqe. Izici zentshisekelo yocansi zihluke ngokuphelele. Abanye abantu bangase bathandane nesikhumba, kodwa abanye abantu bafuna ukubona amathanga amahle namathole. Kubantu abaningi abakhetha ukudlala ngemilenze yonodoli, isithakazelo sobulili emilenzeni ethambile, emise kahle kanye namathanga kungamandla okushayela anamandla. Okungcono nakakhulu, ungakhetha amamodeli amancane ahlukene. Zonke lezi zinketho zikunikeza ithuba lokujabulela uhlobo lwamaphupho ocansi ongase ulufune.
Manje, ake sigxile embuzweni, uma ukusebenzisa onodoli bocansi kuwukukopela: sicabanga ukuthi kuncike ezintweni eziningi ezahlukene, isibonelo, uhlobo lobudlelwano phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho. Khumbula njalo: ukuthenga onodoli bocansi akuyona into yesikhathi esisodwa, ngakho khuluma nentombi yakho ngaphambi kokutshala imali konodoli bocansi. Mhlawumbe ungamqinisekisa ngemiphumela emihle yokuthi ukusebenzisa onodoli bocansi kungathuthukisa impilo yakho yobulili ngisho nomshado wakho.
Lapho kuqala ukukopela, wonke umuntu wayenombono ohlukile ngalolu daba. Ngokuvamile, konke okulimaza umlingani wakho futhi okungamukeleki kubi. Uma umkakho evuma ukuthi une unodoli omuhle wocansi, khona-ke usuxazulule zonke izinkinga zesikhathi esizayo. Ukugcina unodoli wocansi eyimfihlo noma ukumfihla kungabangela izinkinga futhi kulimaza umlingani wakho uma ekuthola. Lokhu kuwela ngokucacile esigabeni "esingemukeleki".
