Cishe uzoqaphela ukubaluleka kwenodoli wakho ongakulethela impilo yakho nokuba khona kwakho

Kuyini onodoli bezocansi abashibhile? Ngokwemibandela yezokwelapha yamanje, "isiyaluyalu sokulawula i-sexual drive disorder noma ukulahlekelwa i-libido", uhlobo lokuziphatha kocansi okuphoqelekile (ukudlwengula kungolunye uhlobo lokuziphatha kocansi okuphoqelekile). Eqinisweni, i-psychopathology kanye ne-psychology bekuyisifundo sokuluthwa ucansi ekuqaleni maphakathi nekhulu lama-20. Kumqulu wesine we-Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, incazelo kanye nencazelo "yokulutheka" ukuxilonga kwakamuva kanye nesifo sengqondo e-United States. Emqulwini wesihlanu we-Statistical Manual (DSM-5), alikho igama noma incazelo yokuthi "umlutha wocansi".

Ngamanye amazwi, impikiswano yezokwelapha mayelana "nemilutha yocansi" ayikabi isifo sengqondo esitholakalayo, futhi ayikamukelwa odokotela bengqondo abaningi kanye nezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo. I-American Psychological Association (APA) ayikabheki ukuluthwa ucansi njengokuphazamiseka kwengqondo okucacile, okujwayelekile, futhi okulaphekayo, kodwa ucwaningo olumayelana nokuluthwa ucansi kwezengqondo nezokusebenza kwengqondo alukaze luyeke. Ngakho-ke, nakuba sijwayele ukusebenzisa igama elithi "ukulutha ucansi", ezinye izazi zikhetha ukusebenzisa amagama anjengokuthi "i-sexual impulse control disorder" kanye "nokuziphatha okuphoqelekile kocansi".

Nakuba ngokomzimba Unodoli wezocansi weTpe zisabiza kakhulu, amazinga ethu okuphila aya ngokuya ekhuphuka. Ngaphezu kwalokho, bayanda abakhiqizi basekhaya, futhi kunezinhlelo zokusebenza eziningi zedatha ye-TPE. Manje intengo yonodoli abangokwenyama yehle kakhulu, ngakho abantu abaningi bangakwazi ukubathenga. Kulesi sigaba, intengo yonodoli abangokwenyama iyadida kakhulu. Izintengo zasekhaya zisukela kumakhulu ambalwa amayuan ukuya emashumini ezinkulungwane zonodoli abaphathekayo be-silicone. Kukhona zonke izinhlobo zonodoli abangokwenyama. Isihloko esilandelayo sizokwethula kafushane izici zonodoli abakhona njengamanje. Bona ukuthi iyiphi engcono.

Sonke siyazi ukuthi unodoli ongokwenyama uwuhlobo lwethoyizi lomuntu omdala, osetshenziselwa ukuvala indawo yabantu bangempela ukuze anelise izifiso zomzimba. Ukuze uqonde kangcono uthando futhi uzwe uthando kangcono, onodoli abangokwenyama badinga ukuba nalezi zici ezilandelayo: Okokuqala, unodoli omuhle wocansi kufanele ibe nesikhumba esifanisiwe kakhulu, esingenabuthi futhi esiphephile, umuzwa wesandla esihle, ukuqina okuphezulu, kanye nokuthinta okufanayo nabantu bangempela. Kufanele futhi ibe nomthelela wokulwa nokungcolisa futhi kube lula kakhulu ukuyihlanza. Unodoli omuhle wenyama unethoni yesikhumba esithambile kanye nokucwebezela, futhi ukuthinta kuseduze nesikhumba sangempela.

Kungase kube nemizwa phakathi kwanoma ubani nanoma yini, futhi imicabango nezenzo zakho siqu ezinquma ukuxhumana kwakho komuntu siqu nolwazi. Uma lo muzwa ukhula phakathi kwakho nesithandwa sakho kanye nonodoli wocansi, cishe uzoqaphela inani elingalethwa unodoli wakho empilweni nasebukhoneni bakho. Ukuba khona kwemizwa yakho, imizwa nemicabango engaqinisekisa ubuhlobo bakho nolwazi lwakho nodoli, futhi wenze unodoli wakho abe umlingani womuntu siqu kanye nozakwethu empilweni yakho.

Namuhla sibheka ukuthi kunjani ukuthandana nonodoli wocansi. Ngokwenza lokhu, sibungaza ubudlelwano obungakheka phakathi komuntu nonodoli wakhe. Akuvamile ukuhlakulela imizwa nemizwa yothando nonodoli bocansi. Eqinisweni, lokhu kwenzeka emhlabeni wonke. Ngempilo nomphefumulo wabo bonke abantu, ubudlelwano phakathi kwabanikazi bonodoli nonodoli babo kufanele bamukelwe futhi bukhuthazwe. Uthando futhi Unodoli Wothando ingakhulisa futhi ithuthukise impilo yakho, futhi ikunikeze ukwanda kwempilo yemizwa nengokwenyama ezingeni elijulile. Masilalele ngothando!