Ku-imeyili yokulandelela nelinye lamakhasimende ethu, lapho esichazela ukuthi eyakhe kanjani onodoli bezocansi abashibhile wamsiza kakhulu, saqaphela le nzuzo engavamile yonodoli bocansi. Ngakho-ke, ngemvume yakhe (futhi yashintsha kancane igama lakhe), wavuma ukusivumela ukuba sixoxe ngendaba yakhe, enethemba lokuthi abanye abantu abalahlekelwa abathandekayo bangafunda kulokho okwenzeka kuye. Silapha ukuze sibike incwadi yokuncoma esiyitholile evela kuklayenti.
Hlangana noRobert, umfelwa oneminyaka engu-53 ubudala owashonelwa umkakhe ngenxa yomdlavuza esikhathini esingaphezu konyaka. Njengoba ubuhle bakhe bukhula futhi behlala ezindaweni ezingaphandle, kunzima kuye ukubhekana nokushona komkakhe. "Ubuhle banezimpilo zabo, nami nginayo impilo yami, kodwa uma behamba ngemva komngcwabo, ngizizwa nginesizungu. Yebo, nginabangane bami futhi umsebenzi wami ungigcina ngimatasa, kodwa ngibuyela endlini njalo ebusuku. azinalutho."
Izindleko eziphezulu zokuqasha umuntu osiphelezelayo ziyisithiyo kubantu abaningi. Abantu abaningi abakwazi ukukukhokhela noma bazizwe benamahloni ngenxa yokuthi abalokothi baxhumane nomuntu mathupha. Ngokujabulisayo, kunenye enye indlela ethengekayo: onodoli bocansi! Labo nodoli bocansi abahle nabanjengempilo baklanyelwe ngokukhethekile ukusiza ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zabantu zocansi, futhi banganikeza abesilisa nabesifazane ulwazi oluphelele oluphephile. Idoli locansi lowesilisa, enokwethenjelwa futhi eyimfihlo ngokuphelele. Njenganoma yiluphi olunye uhlobo lobudlelwano, udinga ukwenza isiqiniseko sokuthi uthola lokho okufunayo kubo—njengobudlelwano bangempela, kwesinye isikhathi onodoli bocansi abahlangabezani ncamashi nalokho esikulindele.
Unodoli wezocansi waseJapan kade ikhona kusukela ngawo-1800, kodwa ukuthandwa kwabo kuye kwanda kakhulu muva nje. Lokhu kuhlobene nokuvinjwa komhlaba wonke kanye nokuhlukaniswa kwabantu ekuphishekeleni imisebenzi emikhulu nengcebo lapho bebahle. Inkundla yezokuxhumana inomthelela kubantu abasebenzisa amakhompuyutha nezinye izinto eziphathwayo ezihlukanisayo kancane kancane futhi baxhumane. Nakuba umqondo wokuya ocansini nabanye ungase ubonakale uyinqaba noma ucasula kwabanye abantu, ungaba negalelo elibalulekile empilweni yomuntu yobulili kanye nenjabulo iyonke.
Usadlala onodoli bocansi ngaphandle kokukopela? Ngaphandle kwami ujola namanye amadoda? Zibuze yonke imibuzo yezomthetho endaweni yokuphola. Ungakwazi njalo ukweqa zonke lezi futhi uthole onodoli bocansi. Onodoli bocansi bathembeke kakhulu, nonodoli bocansi abahluleli ukuthi sike saba khona sonke... Kube nochungechunge lwezinsuku futhi siyabona ukuthi izintombi zethu azithandeki kithi. Hhayi, akekho kithi ongakhanga njengoBrad Pitt, akunjalo?
Kungani ungavumeli ubusuku bosuku buphele ngaphandle kwengcindezi noma okulindelekile (okuzokwenza ubukeke ungadingeki futhi uqiniseka ngokwengeziwe) futhi uvumele unodoli wakho wangempela wocansi uhlangabezane nezidingo zakho? Onodoli bocansi abanawo ama-STD. Asibhekane nakho. Izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi zikhona. Abalingani abasha abathembekile ngaso sonke isikhathi, noma bangase bangazi ukuthi banezifo ezithathelwana ngocansi futhi bangazidlulisela kumlingani olandelayo. Nge Unodoli wezocansi weTpe, akudingeki ukhathazeke ngokuthola noma yiziphi izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi. Uma uzinika isikhathi ukwazi usuku lwangempela lomuntu, ungalala nonodoli ngaphandle kokukhathazeka. Lesi yisimo sokunqoba.
