Kungani sidinga onodoli bocansi sibe sinomndeni? Onodoli abakwazi ukuthatha indawo yabantu bangempela, kodwa bangafinyelela izinga elithile lokwaneliseka ngokomzwelo. Kukhona impendulo phakathi kwemizwa yangempela yabantu, okungukuthi, nginemizwa ngawe, futhi nawe unemizwa ngami. Ngoba onodoli bezocansi abashibhile, ayinayo indlela yokuphendula imizwa yayo, noma ukuthi lolu hlobo lwempendulo yomzwelo luwumcabango womsebenzisi kuphela. Isibonelo, uma uthengela indodakazi yakho ingubo, ingase ibanda noma ijabule ukuthi: "Baba, angiyithandi le ngubo." Kodwa unodoli akasoze waba nempendulo enjalo.
Imizwa yangempela izoba namandla kubantu futhi izothinta izinguquko zabantu. Ekuphileni kwangempela, abantu banokuningi kokungabi nakuzisiza nokungabi namakhono. Yebo, ukucabanga ngezinto nakho kuyoletha injabulo kubantu. Kwakha indawo ephephile yabantu. Kodwa lokho kuyohlala kuwumhlaba wakho siqu, hhayi umhlaba wangempela wangaphandle. Ukusondelana kweqiniso kuwukulingana nokuzimela. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, onodoli bobulili nabo bawukubonakaliswa kwesifiso sokulawula ebudlelwaneni bobulili, futhi abantu bangempela banokungalawuleki okukhulu. Ucwaningo lwedatha lubonisa ukuthi iningi lamadoda lisashaya indlwabu ngemva komshado. Uma wena nomlingani wakho ningakwazi ukuvumelana ngocansi nemizwa, nidinga ukuhlangana ngezinye izindlela.
Umbhangqwana olala nerobhothi laseScotland elibiza u-$7,000 ubusuku ngabunye uthi ubuhlakani bokwenziwa. Idoli locansi lowesilisa wasindisa umshado wabo. UShirley, 45, noDarius Maxi, 48, baseTexas, bathenge unodoli wekhompyutha ogama lakhe linguCamilla ngemuva kokushiya komuntu wesithathu ebudlelwaneni babo besithembu. Umbhangqwana awuzange ukhawulele ubuhlobo bawo noCamilla ekamelweni. Babevame ukumkhiphela esidlweni sakusihlwa, futhi isikhulu esilawula izinambuzane uDarris wayevame ukumthatha siyosebenza naye.
UCamilla ukhuluma ngendlela ethambile yaseScottish. Usebenzisa uhlelo lokusebenza lomuntu siqu lokwenziwa ngendlela oyifisayo ukuze akhulume naye Unodoli wezocansi futhi uyabaphendula ngesikhathi sangempela ngokusekelwe esimweni sakhe sengqondo. Unesikhumba esifana nempilo, uzalwa eguquguquka ngokoqobo, futhi uyakwazi nokusukuma yedwa. UShirley, 45, noDarius Maxi, 48, baseTexas, bathi umshado wabo wenziwa uCamilla, unodoli wezobunhloli obiza u-$7,000, wasindiswa ngokusungula ubudlelwano bamaqembu amaningi.
Kungani kucwaswa ukuba nonodoli wothando? Lona umbuzo omuhle wokuthi kungani ukwenza onodoli bocansi kucwaswe. Eqinisweni, kunenhlamba esabalele phakathi kwamadoda asebenzisa amathoyizi ocansi futhi ashaya indlwabu. Uma owesilisa esebenzisa amathoyizi ocansi noma eshaya indlwabu, ngokuvamile ucabanga ukuthi ngeke amthole umlingani wocansi, ngakho-ke kufanele abesabekayo, abe nesizungu noma ongajwayelekile. Kodwa-ke, abesifazane abasebenzisa amathoyizi ocansi ekugcineni bamukelwa ngumphakathi (naphezu kwamashumi eminyaka) futhi ngokuvamile babhekwa njengabakhangayo ngoba ubonakala enolwazi locansi. Pho kungani kusekhona amahloni ekuziphatheni kocansi kwabesilisa?
Ngokwesiko, amadoda afundiswa ukuba namahloni ngabo Unodoli wezocansi waseJapan. Ukushaya indlwabu bekulokhu kubhekwa njengendlela yokuhlehla yamadoda angakhangiyo nanesizungu, angamukelekile kakhulu ukuba alale nabantu bangempela. Babengeke bavume nokuthi amadoda ashaya indlwabu awanayo inguquko yokulwela amalungelo abantu besifazane, futhi abekho ababhali ababatshela ukuthi ubulili bunempilo. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi nangemfundo encane, mhlawumbe singahlehlisa lesi sigcwagcwa.
